“Oh don’t worry about them, they’re just doing that to get attention” is a phrase I have heard many times, in many different ways. As humans, of any and all ages, we engage in attention seeking behaviors because some part of us is not being seen by those around us. Some part of us is being ignored, silenced, exiled, forgotten, shunned, shamed, guilted…you name it. And that part desperately needs true, loving, affirming attention. 

Our work together is centered on connecting you to your Capital S Self, and using a relational model to build trust, healing, and growth between you, your Self, and your Parts.
Your Self is the You who existed before life, society, trauma, and everything re-molded you and taught you what you are supposed to believe, or feel, or think.

Have you ever sat across from someone and thought; Man, they just really do not get what it’s like to be me. Maybe it was a therapist whose theory or practice just didn’t stick with how you process your emotions. Maybe it was a doctor or nurse who just didn’t understand the severity of your symptoms.

As a late-r blooming Queer and Neurodivergent person (who also lives with chronic illness!) I can absolutely, deeply relate to that experience…

So what do we do when these rigid rules hurt us and our ability to be? We seek out a way to understand, undo, and re-write these messages to create more flexibility, freedom, and authenticity in our lives.